So you broke up with her and now you want to
get her back? This can be a tricky thing to do as most girls are going
to be wary of getting back together with someone who has dumped them.
However, there are ways to do this. The following are a few tips for how
to get her to want to get back together with you:
1. Apologize. Dumping someone, breaking
up, etc. often leads to unkind things being said, and a torrent of
emotions. This girl probably felt stupid for trusting you not to hurt
her, embarrassed that she got dumped, hurt that it happened etc. So, you
need to let her know you are sorry. Apologies can go a long way toward
repairing a relationship, even one that no longer exists.
2. Tell her how DUMB you were. When you break up with someone, it can be damaging to their pride. No one wants to feel unwanted, even if they knew things weren't working out, it can be hard to accept that they were the one who got left. So, if you tell them what a huge mistake it was, and how dumb you were to do it, and how you have regretted it ever since, and that you feel terrible, their pride will be salved, and your chances of getting a reconcile go up significantly. Of course, they may want to know why you broke up with them in the first place, and it is important that you be honest, but remember their pride. If you broke up with them because a hot girl you work with was hitting on you, and you wanted to see if it would go anywhere, then you may want to change the story a little. Just say, "I felt like I should explore my options a little more before I settled on someone, but after I broke up with you I realized how dumb it was to give up a great thing, in search of something that might be great."
3. Let her know why she can trust you. If you have broken up with her in the past, she may not want to get back together with you because what if you just do it again? Most girls are not going to want to put their heart on the line a second time for the same guy. So, you have to give her some good reasons to believe you aren't going to just turn around and dump her again in a few weeks. The best way is to give her concrete reasons why you want to get back together, and concrete reasons why you ended it before, and why those reasons won't occur again.
4. Give her some time. If you try to force it, she will shy away. Instead, let her think about it for a while, and get used to the idea. She may have to weigh out the pros and cons in her mind. Let her do this.
5. Be okay with just being her friend for a while first, as it might require that for her to trust you again. If you show loyalty as a friend for a while, she will be more likely to want to get back into a relationship with you.
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1. Apologize. Dumping someone, breaking
up, etc. often leads to unkind things being said, and a torrent of
emotions. This girl probably felt stupid for trusting you not to hurt
her, embarrassed that she got dumped, hurt that it happened etc. So, you
need to let her know you are sorry. Apologies can go a long way toward
repairing a relationship, even one that no longer exists. 2. Tell her how DUMB you were. When you break up with someone, it can be damaging to their pride. No one wants to feel unwanted, even if they knew things weren't working out, it can be hard to accept that they were the one who got left. So, if you tell them what a huge mistake it was, and how dumb you were to do it, and how you have regretted it ever since, and that you feel terrible, their pride will be salved, and your chances of getting a reconcile go up significantly. Of course, they may want to know why you broke up with them in the first place, and it is important that you be honest, but remember their pride. If you broke up with them because a hot girl you work with was hitting on you, and you wanted to see if it would go anywhere, then you may want to change the story a little. Just say, "I felt like I should explore my options a little more before I settled on someone, but after I broke up with you I realized how dumb it was to give up a great thing, in search of something that might be great."
3. Let her know why she can trust you. If you have broken up with her in the past, she may not want to get back together with you because what if you just do it again? Most girls are not going to want to put their heart on the line a second time for the same guy. So, you have to give her some good reasons to believe you aren't going to just turn around and dump her again in a few weeks. The best way is to give her concrete reasons why you want to get back together, and concrete reasons why you ended it before, and why those reasons won't occur again.
4. Give her some time. If you try to force it, she will shy away. Instead, let her think about it for a while, and get used to the idea. She may have to weigh out the pros and cons in her mind. Let her do this.
5. Be okay with just being her friend for a while first, as it might require that for her to trust you again. If you show loyalty as a friend for a while, she will be more likely to want to get back into a relationship with you.
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