Men sometimes make mistakes during sex, the following are some of the most common mistakes they make:
1. Being in too big of a hurry. Biologically it takes a man only two minutes to reach climax, while it takes a woman an average of twelve minutes to reach climax. If you want her to be satisfied, it is important that you slow things down so that she has a chance to catch up with you. This may mean using more foreplay, keeping your clothes on longer, or buying a product that will help you last longer, such as a desensitizer that may make that area a little less sensitive, so that you can wait it out. Just remember, just because you want it right now doesn't mean her body is ready for it right now, so be willing to put your urgency on hold in order to make it a pleasant experience for her too.
2. Being too aggressive. While there
are times when a woman wants to ride hard, or be touched with more
aggression, her clitoris and vaginal areas are very sensitive, and it
can be painful if you are not careful. So, take your signals from her,
and start out as gently as you can, giving her a chance to get
comfortable and adjust. Too much aggression can have the opposite
affect you intend on a woman. If it is painful, it may take her longer
to be ready, or she may lose her mood completely.
3. Stressing her out over protection. For a woman, more than a man, getting in the right mood can be more mental than physical. You can touch her and she might not get turned on, but if mentally she is focus on it, etc. she can get turned on more easily. This means you have to be careful about the thoughts, ideas, and discussions you have before and after sex. If you give her a lecture about preventing pregnancy, she is not going to be able to get in the mood because she is going to be so worried that the condom will break, that her IUD will fail, that she missed a day on the pill, etc.
4. Not asking her what she likes. Most women will tell you if they hate it when you breathe in their ears if you ask. So, ask her what she likes you to do to her, and she will tell you. Of course, only ask if you are willing to do the things she wants. If she tells you that she likes something, and you ignore it, she may feel embarrassed or slighted, and that will make it harder for her to be in the mood.
5. Being selfish. Sex is about intimacy, and sharing something together, so if you make it all about you, and do not take any cues from her, or do things to please her, she is going to leave the encounter unsatisfied and possibly upset.
Sex is a big part of relationships, and so helping a man recognize his mistakes, and as a man being willing to admit that you are not perfect, will mean more satisfying and better sex all around. When both partners feel like their needs are being met, and that their partner is concerned enough with their welfare to make changes, etc. the relationship is improved, intimacy strengthened, etc.
1. Being in too big of a hurry. Biologically it takes a man only two minutes to reach climax, while it takes a woman an average of twelve minutes to reach climax. If you want her to be satisfied, it is important that you slow things down so that she has a chance to catch up with you. This may mean using more foreplay, keeping your clothes on longer, or buying a product that will help you last longer, such as a desensitizer that may make that area a little less sensitive, so that you can wait it out. Just remember, just because you want it right now doesn't mean her body is ready for it right now, so be willing to put your urgency on hold in order to make it a pleasant experience for her too.
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3. Stressing her out over protection. For a woman, more than a man, getting in the right mood can be more mental than physical. You can touch her and she might not get turned on, but if mentally she is focus on it, etc. she can get turned on more easily. This means you have to be careful about the thoughts, ideas, and discussions you have before and after sex. If you give her a lecture about preventing pregnancy, she is not going to be able to get in the mood because she is going to be so worried that the condom will break, that her IUD will fail, that she missed a day on the pill, etc.
4. Not asking her what she likes. Most women will tell you if they hate it when you breathe in their ears if you ask. So, ask her what she likes you to do to her, and she will tell you. Of course, only ask if you are willing to do the things she wants. If she tells you that she likes something, and you ignore it, she may feel embarrassed or slighted, and that will make it harder for her to be in the mood.
5. Being selfish. Sex is about intimacy, and sharing something together, so if you make it all about you, and do not take any cues from her, or do things to please her, she is going to leave the encounter unsatisfied and possibly upset.
Sex is a big part of relationships, and so helping a man recognize his mistakes, and as a man being willing to admit that you are not perfect, will mean more satisfying and better sex all around. When both partners feel like their needs are being met, and that their partner is concerned enough with their welfare to make changes, etc. the relationship is improved, intimacy strengthened, etc.
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