Is it possible to fall in love with someone
you have never met? Some say that it is. Many would argue that you do
not have to meet someone in person to get to know them and fall in love
with them. Online dating is becoming a huge phenomenon. The whole world
seems to be going virtual, but is it safe to do your dating that way?
Consider the following:
1. You have a chance to get to know them without distraction. Dating can be distracting because you are worried about how you look, if you have food in your teeth, if he is going to pay or if she is. If you will make it to the movie on time. Etc. there are all kinds of distractions. Online dating provides you with a time to get to know one another without that.
2. You talk a lot more, and "do" a lot less. Sometimes when you "fall in love" in person you fall in love with the feelings, not the person. You make out and your hormones get raging, and you confuse it for love. Often during the course of dating, we think we like the person, when in actuality we like the activity. If you go to a movie and it is funny, you may associate humor with the person you went with, even if they aren't funny at all. If you enjoyed a good meal with someone, you may attribute the liking of the date to the person, when in reality it was the satisfaction your taste buds and stomach got. So, online dating allows you to get to know them, and like them, not the other stuff going on.
3. You have to trust each other because there are so many chances and opportunities to lie. This is a plus and a drawback. Online dating means that someone could send you a picture that is not of them, or is of them from ten years ago. It means they could make their life seem more glamorous than it actually is. However, it also helps you build trust, because if they are what they said they were, you know they could have lied, so easily, and didn't.
So, can you really fall in love with someone you have never met? The answer seems to be yes, in fact, it seems as though you are likely to be able to fall in love in a more true sense this way because you do not have the emotional ups and downs that come with physical intimacy. Often hormones get in the way of true feelings, and create fall sense of love, when in fact it is lust. So, you can fall in love with someone you have never met, but make sure you try out the lust side before you do anything permanent, as you want to make sure you are physically compatible as well. If you marry the person, that is the person you will sleep with the rest of your life, so make sure that you are physically attracted to them as well as emotionally and intellectually.
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1. You have a chance to get to know them without distraction. Dating can be distracting because you are worried about how you look, if you have food in your teeth, if he is going to pay or if she is. If you will make it to the movie on time. Etc. there are all kinds of distractions. Online dating provides you with a time to get to know one another without that.
2. You talk a lot more, and "do" a lot less. Sometimes when you "fall in love" in person you fall in love with the feelings, not the person. You make out and your hormones get raging, and you confuse it for love. Often during the course of dating, we think we like the person, when in actuality we like the activity. If you go to a movie and it is funny, you may associate humor with the person you went with, even if they aren't funny at all. If you enjoyed a good meal with someone, you may attribute the liking of the date to the person, when in reality it was the satisfaction your taste buds and stomach got. So, online dating allows you to get to know them, and like them, not the other stuff going on.
3. You have to trust each other because there are so many chances and opportunities to lie. This is a plus and a drawback. Online dating means that someone could send you a picture that is not of them, or is of them from ten years ago. It means they could make their life seem more glamorous than it actually is. However, it also helps you build trust, because if they are what they said they were, you know they could have lied, so easily, and didn't.
So, can you really fall in love with someone you have never met? The answer seems to be yes, in fact, it seems as though you are likely to be able to fall in love in a more true sense this way because you do not have the emotional ups and downs that come with physical intimacy. Often hormones get in the way of true feelings, and create fall sense of love, when in fact it is lust. So, you can fall in love with someone you have never met, but make sure you try out the lust side before you do anything permanent, as you want to make sure you are physically compatible as well. If you marry the person, that is the person you will sleep with the rest of your life, so make sure that you are physically attracted to them as well as emotionally and intellectually.
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